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hi, jaigurudev
we have a server in our body where we can get all answers need is to be only activate server.
meditation like hariom meditation can activate our inner answering server.
if we want toget any right answer just meditate and you will get anser.
it is practice and longer prossses but 100% correct method according to guruji
you may also do advance or dsn as soon as possible earlier.
with best wishes

Dear Carolyn,

Do not lose heart and everyone faces this Dilemma in life.

Just go through the following teachings by our Beloved Guruji on Youtube as below. There are four parts.

Carefully listen what he says.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MFntCo8ryH8&feature=related

You will have an answer and have faith in it.

Surrender everything to Guruji.

Thanks guys!!!!! I love you all.Your advices have given me a new perspective....Im going to do everything you have suggested.I know that im bigger than my problems.Life is too short and so beutiful to be sad about this.

All the love of the world to you
Jai Guru Dev
Carolyn

Dear...
Dotn worry...all of us are confused at one point of time or the other....confusion makes us grow.Take it in a positive way!!

Its greatn that u want to become an AOL teacher....bless u. Its a great service to society.But do remember that one does not become an AOL teacher overnight. One also has to balance other responsibilities in life. Maybe u would not want to pursue denttistry full time but maybe u can still devote some time to it. Your boyfriend feels the way he does sicne he has not done AOL and feels u should make use of your life. why dont u get him to do the course? His perspective will change.

And marriage, is your personal choice. There are lot of AOL teachers who are married or will get married, so marriage is not against becoming an instructor.BUt see whether u want to marry your bf or not. Dont force yourself into anything. If u feel u might not get along with him, its best not to get into a marriage committment. True, we dont feel like hurting anyone but u cant hurt urself too and the other person by marrying reluctantly. Best is to sit and talk to him and be honest about your feelings.

Also, relax. This is all for the good. know that whatver happens will be for the good. Surrender to Guruji and relax. That is the beauty of AOL. Know that confusion is in the mind level, Just take a pillow and go to sleep. leave it to time, things will sort out themselves...now smile and be happy!!!

nothing will be a mess untill u balance all of life properly with out denying any.

I dont think art of living demands one to sacrifice ones, profession, relationships, desires so and so to be involved in it .

art of living is for u and for ur happiness.

there is not conflict at all .

Jai Gurudev Carolyn,
Do remember that you are the most powerful person in your life. You are the michaelangelo of your life, the masterpiece of your life. No situation is bigger than you. See the problem as small, just as a small irritation. Things will change with time. Everything changes, give time to your relationship. have patience. Talk it out with your boyfriend, laying down your priorities. Agree to disagree but do not be aggressive or agitated.

You are being somewhat emotional. Use your intellect. Your emotions need a break. You need to clear your mind. You are a teacher. You have all the tools with you. Sudarshan Kriya has the ability to clear your emotional baggage so do that everyday. Satsang is also very powerful in this aspect.

hiii caroyln jaigurudev .. guruji always says this ...theres a chinese proverb ...if you are confused and dont understand what to do ..just take your pillow and go off to sleep...:))
Well my advice to you would be just DO WHAT YOU FEEL IS RIGHT AND WHAT YOU REALLY WANT TO DO IN LIFE, what really would make you happy .. OR just let things be the way they are and leave it to guruji am sure ...all you will have to do is wait and watch..things get in place..god bless

so near - it is in your own HEART

ASK your heart - Who are you ? A ?

-dentist
-friend
-fiancee
-individual
-part of society
-someones relative
-someones neighbor
-someone who has desires
-someone confused
-someone thinking about past
-person worried about future
- person overloaded _ BURDENED with
expectations

ALL OF THE ABOVE is normal

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ask your Heart what you want this very moment
Be in the present moment
PRE- SE-NT
pre-sent moment NOW*

jai Gurudev
.........
Deepak at
om om om - om om om - om om om

http://www.BABOOTA.com

Dear Carolyn,
My suggestion to you is if you feel confused don't take the decision with the confused mind. Decision with confused mind always lead to regret later. Right now don't think about the decision let some time pass and allow your mind to settle down. Continue your practice and listen to some Guruji's knowledge. When the mind is settled right decision will come on its own from inside.

Regarding your relationship I will suggest just do what you feel from inside. You should not have any conflict with yourself. That will lead you to bigger problem. If you feel from inside that you are not ready for marriage don't go for it immediately. Saving your own mind is first priority then anything else.

Regarding your boyfriend, first you remove this guilt from your mind that you are hurting him since your intention is not to hurt him. If still he get hurt it is his karma. Our intention is more important. See if you have so much conflict with him right now what will happen later. It will not be good for him also in a long term. May be he is happy for short term but later what will happen. So by this you are not doing any good to him also. Guruji has given very good criteria to decide about right and wrong.

"Any thing which gives short term joy but long term pain is not the right thing to do but something which gives you short term pain but long term joy is worth doing."

Now take decision within this guidelines you will not have to repent later. I am not giving any ready made decision, you are a better person to do that. What I am saying first free your mind from any guilt or any feverishness, allow it to settle and then do what you feel like doing and finally surrender all your decisions to Guruji. He knows what is best for you and so only the best will come to you.

Jai Guru Dev,
Paresh

Don't worry much.....u ll work as a dentist and also as an instructor.....n ur boyfriend ll also be going to do aol courses......

When you are confused much....try to repose in ur self, by being calm and saying that u want nothing.......then u would be able to clear ur mind ....

See in ur post....u have so many 'wants'....

Just relax and Njoi the moment which is in front of you....